Is 2019 the best year of your sexual life yet?
Can you believe we are already half way through the year? It’s a great time to do a check-in on how you are tracking on your goals. Did you set some goals for your sex life this year?
Don’t stress, it’s not too late to make this the best year of your sexual life! And with masturbation month just finishing, it’s a good reminder the key to to achieving the sex life of our dreams starts first with understanding our own bodies and what we like.
If we don’t know what we like, it makes it much harder for the other person to!
A little self-reflection alongside some self-love can get you primed for your best sex life yet. If you’ve been slacking on your sex vision board, one of the quickest and most practical ways to figure out your body and pleasure zones is to put it into practice. Use toys and/or just your hand to explore. Some non-invasive toys for beginners use suction air technology so you can reach orgasm solely from external play - Womanizer vibes are some of my favorites in this category.
As the half-way point for the year inches closer, may we suggest keeping a masturbation diary until July 1?
Here’s some journaling exercises you might like to borrow from Alice Arcangeli, creator of The Masturbation Diary.
And remember, just like any journaling, to get the most benefits you need practice. This may mean forcing yourself to write at the start, but soon enough it may be fun, or at least second nature.
1. Keep this journal for the next week (or however long you like).
2. Write down your entry as soon as possible after your delicious orgasm! This way, the details will still be fresh in your mind, which will help later in your analysis.
3. Read over previous entries and see how new experiences or additional knowledge and time have altered how you think and feel about your body and sexuality.
In many ways this practice is like having a conversation with yourself. You are making your brain think critically about something and produce written words to describe your experience. This will help you figure out what works for you and prompt you to be more experimental and thoughtful than you would normally.
Go for it!